SINGLE MOM NEEDS HELP FOR CHRISTMAS
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I am in shock that I am doing something like this. I am a single mom of 3 kids ages 7,10,14. I do work full time I just don't make much money. I don't get child support often...only when he feels like paying it. We recieve food stamps but no other assistance. I owe the bank money for bounced checks and so I have no bank account. I don't know where to start. I have two credits cards both are charged up and I can't pay them off and they have piled the interest on them...I will never be able to pay them now. I make $10 an hour and I somehow manage to by some clothes for the kids but not myself. They complain that they want new clothes but they make due with garage sales or thrift shops. I need a part time night job but my son has Bipolor and AED and can't watch my girls and I can't afford a sitter. I have hospital bills that range close to 10,000 and my credit score I am afraid to check so I haven't in years. I need help for christmas because I have nothing to give my kids. I don't know where to turn I have already asked for help from churches and such. They might be able to help but they say the need is great this year. I am only asking for $1000 and I can pay some kind of payment each month. I am hoping someone can help us. I have never done anything like this before because I trust nobody. I am afraid of getting in some kind of mess I can never get out of. I know there are good people in this world. And I am not one of those people that is lazy and not willing to work. I do work and I do try. I am wanting to go back to college but with my kids and having to take care of them I find that difficult. My son has so many medical problems and my daughters need me home at night. I just feel helpless and depressed.
I REALLY NEED HELP I HAVE 4 GRANDCHILDREN IM ON DISABILITY HAVE NO MONEY TO BUY ANY GIFTS MOTHER HAS KIDNEY FALIURE I REALLY NEED HELP GRANDAUGHTER AGE16 GRANDSON AGE 15 GRANDSON AGE 8 GRANDAUHHTER AGE 6 I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY HELP THANKS
hi ,iam a single mother of two.i been struggling to pay the bills.my daughters father passed away two years ago,that is when i found out she will not able to receive any benefits ,since her father never had a job.my sons father was paying child support up until six months ago.i have no money to pay for oil to heat my home,no money to even get my kids one gift each and stocking stuffers.what ever kind of help you can assist me with will be very much appreciated,a bag of food,coupons for food stores,etc.thanks....MFEMF
This page has ideas for a low or no money Christmas.
IN ADDITION TO THIS PAGE , THERE ARE NEW PAGES FOR CHRISTMAS 2007 , WHICH CAN BE FOUND AT THE LINK LISTED BELOW THE CHRISTMAS TREE :
click this link for your christmas needs :
BEFORE YOU LOOK AT THIS PAGE FOR IDEAS, PLEASE CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE ABOUT CHRISTMAS OUT. IT IS WONDERFUL TO CELEBRATE DURING THE HOLIDAYS. GETTING AND GIVING GIFTS TO EACH OTHER IS FUN ! ! !
BUT PLEASE REMEMBER WHAT CHRISTMAS IS REALLY ABOUT :
****CHRISTMAS NEEDS AND WANTS****
THE NEW CHRISTMAS PAGE IS HERE. IT HAS
MORE CHRISTMAS IDEAS ADDED ALMOST EVERYDAY AS I FIND THEM.
THIS IS PAGE 3 , CHRISTMAS CHARITIES BY STATE , REGION AND CITY :
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AQUI ESTA UNA PAGINA de NAVIDAD EN español:
HERE IS A PAGE ABOUT CHRISTMAS IN MEXICO. SOME PARTS ARE IN SPANISH AND SOME IN ENGLISH SO THAT WE ALL CAN LEARN
. THE CHRISTMAS IN MEXICO IS ORIENTED MORE TOWARDS THE BIRTHDAY OF JESUS THAN IT IS ABOUT SANTA. Could we learn something here ?
The pages for Hanukkah and Kwanzaa are here :
For everyday living look here :
NEW ON 11/20/06 FROM SHEZABLONDE. THIS IS HOW TO HAVE A HOLY CHRISTMAS. IT IS A WONDERFUL SITE, WITH TONS OF INFORMATION. THANK YOU SHEZABLONDE !
BRAND NEW LINK 11/10/06 FROM A SITE FOR AND BY SANTA CLAUS(ES)
" Regardless of whether you are an individual, organization or fellow Claus in need of assistance, we, at Just Be Claus.Net welcome the opportunity to try and assist you in resolving whatever unfortunate circumstances have threatened your full enjoyment of the Christmas holidays.
If you're a private individual, or a representative of a group of 'True Believers', who, for whatever reason, now find that Santa, or Mrs. Claus, may not be able to keep an appointed visit with you, please click on the link below, appropriate to your needs. In the Elf-mail that opens, you'll be able to contact our 'S.OS. Elves' and describe what it is that now concerns you and how we may be able to help you. "
Here is a new site if you have tried the others below and they have not worked. It is a search engine to find a toy drive in your area by zip code.
Here is one called SimpleChristmas maybe to help change our ideas about Christmas? I have cut down on the amount of presents that I give after reading pages like this one.
Try the Salvation Army. My town had a free shopping day with a room you could get free new presents-they gave us a voucher-call your Salvation Army to find out what they have
How to request a toy at Toys for Tots (NOTE-click find a local campain office in the side bar at the left , then click find an office, then use the scroll down feature to find your state. This will give you the information to contact the local coordinator in your area.)
Here is another page with ideas that are very low or no cost.
Try your local freecycle group. Here is the national site with links to local sites. It is amazing what you can find.
Christmas with no or little money. I typed this in at a forum at this site , and got tons of pages of stuff , so you can sift through and find what you want to use.
This is the Christmas page from the AllThingsFrugal site. Just put your blinders on for all the ads they have , and you will find some good stuff.
The Fraternal Order of Police have a wonderful program called SHOP WITH A COP. In order to find out about it , you need to contact the local lodge of the FOP in your town.Not all the lodges take part in the program.This is worth doing some homework to find it in your area.
Here is some stuff you can do without money This stuff is free, or made with items you can get with food stamps:
Make a popcorn Garland Or one from those fruit flavored cereals(the 'loop' kind)
Watch Christmas shows together with hot chocolate(stir with candy canes) and popcorn and show on tv is free. If you don’t have a tv-walk to free activities in churches or museums or libraries. My daughter and I did ,and we had great conversations walking together that we would not have had if we stayed home and moped around.
Make a snowman
Have a snowball fight
Make a ginger bread house out of graham crackers and what ever you have in the house Make cement from powdered sugar and water. It is cheaper than store bought icing.
Paint Christmassy pictures on the windows with washable paint Add a little dish soap to make it come off easier.
Make a game out of hunting around the house, for things to make Christmas decorations . Let the stuff kids find be good memories even if it is “silly” to you.
Here are some really nice ornaments to make about the true meaning of Christmas. You can make them from paper and markers/crayons OR fabice/felt. Whatever you have .
Go caroling or just sing Christmas carols at home. Singing can make you feel better !
Page 2 has free Christmas Carol sheet music to print out !
Attend a live Nativity –churches have free ones. Some are outside , so if you live in a cold climate , dress warmly !
Go collect pine cones and use them to make ornaments
TIP : First bake the cones on a foil-lined cookie sheet for about an hour at 200 degrees. This kills any bugs or spider mites(or who knows what else !) that live in them. This also allows the seeds to fall out. If you want the pine cone to close up again , just plunge it in cold water.
Have the kids write and act out a Christmas play
Rent videos from the library and have a movie marathon. Stay up all night if you want !
Have a game night –you sometimes borrow these at the library too. Or invite other single mom families and tell them to bring what games they have.
Here are some games to print out ! ! !
The link above has all of these !
25 Dominoes games 8 Rummy Games
18 Lotto & Bingo Games 4 Uno-type Games
8 Board Games 2 Tic Tac Toe Games
6 Memory Games 4 Matching Games
Shovel the snow for your elderly neighbors –No matter how little you have , you always
have something you can give to others who have less.
Read one Christmas short story each night before bed –make some up too. Get books out of the library early. People tend to snatch them up at the last minute.
Have a birthday celebration for Jesus. Tell Him what you will give Him for His birthday this year.
Light up your sidewalk with luminaries !
take labels off cans of veggies or fruit. Punch holes in cans in any shape. (mom do this with screw driver or other tools). Don’t punch all the way to the bottom of the cans. Fill with sand or dirt to level below punched holes. Stick old candles in light . Put outside at night . They are so pretty. Here is another icy light to make for free :
Learn about different cultures celebrate Christmas.... and about what they did years ago(library).
This link has a book list for Christmas. Scroll down for the books about different countries. If your library doesn't have the book you want ask for inter-library loan.
Make a manger scene out of playdough( Play dough type recipe follows) or clay or even construction paperor blocks or sticks from outside(I bet the original one was made out of stones and logs and dirt), whatever is handy
Gingerbread people made out of brown grocery sacks are inexpensive.You can decorate with crayons or paint.
Make paper snowflakes
. The simplest, yet most beautiful holiday decoration? Paper snowflakes! Re-live your childhood and create a few. Or a whole blizzard. If you're feeling generous, you can ask your kids to help. When you're done, tape them on your windows- whenever you look out, you'll see a white Christmas.The snowflakes also look really good made into a wreath.
MORE PAPER FUN. PRINT OUT AND MAKE PAPER TOYS ! THIS SITE IS WILD AND FUN !
HERE IS ANOTHER COOL MAKE YOUR OWN TOYS SITE ! ! !
SITE QUOTE :Welcome to my odd, little world of paper toys, holiday cards, valentines, sun boxes,
baskets and bags, origami and ephemera... all for you to make.
My goal is to help grownups and kids spend time together making things.
It is my wish to amuse and delight.
COOL MAKE YOUR OWN PAPER STUFF SITE FOR KIDS AND ADULTS (This link is not working at the moment. Use the link below instead.)
Here is a cool page from Readers Digest telling you how to make toys (easy from stuff around the house.)
More Christmas ideas and thoughts from W H O ~ K N E W (an aidmate!)
I was reading your posts about Christmas and I remember we used to take the dough recipe (you posted) along cookie cutter and make ornaments. Roll the dough out to about ¼ in thick. Cut out different shapes with cookie cutters – holiday shapes, or even a simple round cup can be used. Remember to cut a small hole at the top to put yarn through! Let them dry overnight and then paint or decorate with glue and sparkles or other decorations. Hang on tree and enjoy your homemade Christmas tree!
Another decoration that NEVER goes out of style is the paper chains. Cut colorful strips of construction paper about ¼ wide and 2inches long. Glue the ends together, take another strip, loop it through the first and glue together. Great for stringing over doorways or using as garland on the tree! If you do not have colored construction paper, us plain white paper and color the strips before gluing together. Not only does it look beautiful, but it is a great way to spend time together. just a thought...
WHO KNEW HAS GREAT PAGES !
click here for her homepage : HOME PAGE OF WHO KNEW
HERE IS A SPECIAL CHRISTMAS PAGE BY ANNIE
EVEN IF YOU DON'T USE ANY OF HER IDEAS , SEEING HER GRAPHICS ON THIS PAGE ARE WORTH THE CLICK !
STOCKING STUFFER BRAINSTORM :
Cookie crayons -
Take the paper off old crayons.Break into pieces. Spray muffin tins with nonstick spray or lightly coat with oil.Put crayon pieces into muffin tins and melt in an oven at 250 degrees until just melted (so the colors are still separate).Let cool. Turn over and rap back of tins hard.
Diary / journal
Here are journals for kids that you can print out :
Here are some for moms :
Here is a pretty (Christian oriented ) journal for ladies to print out :
Fabric trick wallets :
Flower seeds –from your own flowers
Here is a seed packet pattern . You can hand print what type of seeds they are.
Travel Bingo cards (and one stationary print)
These are REALLY CUTE !
You can print them in color or black and white.
Homemade chocolate dipped pretzel rods(with bonus of other recipes ;)
Tip : you don't need parchment paper. Use waxed paper.
Movie Viewer instructions ( your older kids can make their own )
Herbal teas –package an assortment from your own teas in a paper packet you made
Here is a very simple but fun toy called a Thaumatrope (or 'wonder turner) to add to the stockings :
Sewing kit, travel-make one from felt or fabric-------
This is the cutest sewing kit from Family Fun. You can make it into any animal you can think of.
Here is a link to homemade slime , goop ,sillyputty ,play dough and . . .
Here is a more expensive snow globe project
1. SNOW GLOBE
2. Cheaper snow globe
Small glass jar with lid (baby food jar)
Baby oil or corn syrup
Glitter OR egg shells crushed up (remove all the thin skin stuck to the inside of the egg first)
Glue (not water soluble)
Toys or seashells or little things from around the house that you are tired of stepping on. (Like Barbie accessories!)
Fill the jar with baby oil or corn syrup, and a little water, then add glitter or crushed egg shells. Meanwhile, glue the toys or seashells to the inside of the lid with glue and put the lid on the jar (seal with glue). When dry, turn the jar upside down.
It is easier to get wooden spools than it used to be , and these are FUN !
Make your own hair scrunchies out of fabric scraps :
Stationary or note cards
This is a really nice assortment of printable stationary :
Here is one with free stationary gift tags and cards :
Here are some beautiful watercolor notecards :
Tiny Teddy bear
Booklet of games or puzzles
Many more puzzles and word searches ,as well as crosswords to make booklets from :
Sewing for your dolls :
Doll shoes :
Here is a precious doll sweater from 1904 !
Lots of different doll clothes and doll cosume ideas :
Doll patchwork quilt-
This is a site I have found many good projects on. This page has some easy doll blankets to make.
Paper airplane instructions
Here are 3 to print out colored or black and white.
6 more gliders
21 can be found here ranked easy to difficult
Match up game
More matching games , memory games and mazes to download and print from the page where I got the two listed above.
Print your own custom playing cards
Make your own paper rocket (you just print it out , your kid makes the rocket ! Instructions for making the launcher too ! )
Here is one to make from plastic bread wrappers !
Bubble blowing liquid
Homemade Beauty Treats
Cookies personalized with name
These are spicy and buttery !
Flatten with the bottom of a glass dipped in sugar instead of a fork.
Write your childs name on the cookie in big frosting letters.
Samples from department stores
(lotion , perfume , mens cologne etc. ) -They practically push them on you at Christmas time. You have no obligation to buy their product when they are offering you the samples.
Popcorn balls-recipe below
These are courtesy of Brownielocks and the Three Bears.
Here are 9 more PAGES of bookmarks , plus 2 more to print and color with crayons or markers !
A letter from santa ,or parents or ? to say how special they are
Here are some different stationaries you can print out and use :
Stuff from the dollar store-its amazing how cheap some of their stuff is
Stuff you have found through-out the year at garage sales(plan for next year)
these are triangular puzzles to print out and put together !
Here is a shareware program on Winsite to make your own jigsaw puzzles. I haven't tried it yet , but I am going to !
Really colorful mittens you made
Here is a pattern for two-needle mittens. They are for any size from infant to adult , and you can convert them to crochet. :
Another way to make mittens is to buy a colorful sweater at Goodwill , trace your childs hand and cut out mittens from the sweater. You can make your own mitten pattern from a paper bag. I bought a beautiful sweater at Goodwill on half-off day for $1.50 , It will make at least 5 pairs of mittens.
Tiny things made for their dolls-fruits veggies etc
And here is a clay you can make and use for the doll foods :
Homemade Cornstarch Clay
Clay to use for play or make doll food , ornaments and sculptures.
2 cups baking soda
1 cup cornstarch
1 cup water
Paints and brushes (optional)
Stir the cornstarch, baking soda and water together in the saucepan thoroughly and bring to a boil on medium to medium-high heat, stirring constantly. Turn off the heat and continue stirring until the mixture is the texture of mashed potatoes, then cover and cool to room temperature.
The clay is now ready for play! Use it for play or make ornaments and sculptures.
Dry your clay
Allow the clay to air dry, turning the piece over every 12 hours. If your oven is capable of baking at less than 200 degrees Fahrenheit, you may choose that option, though the ornaments will be more brittle.
You can make ornaments too :
Roll out 1/8- to ¼-inch-thick slabs of clay. Cut out shapes with cookie cutters or children’s play knives. Poke holes large enough to thread a ribbon or fishing line through, using a pencil or other object. Use watercolors or other paint after it dries.
COLORFUL POPCORN BALLS
2 c. light corn syrup
1 c. sugar
1 lg. box of any colored/flavored gelatin dessert
Sprinkles in Christmas color to accent gelatin color (optional)
20 c. popped popcorn
Combine sugar and syrup and boil for 1 minute. Do not stir. Add Jello and mix, pour over popcorn and mix well. Add sprinkles if desired. Then grease hands with butter and make into balls. Make sure popcorn is cool, but not too cool.
ALL PURPOSE PLAY DOUGH CLAY
This play dough clay is scented and colored.
1 cup flour
½ cup salt
1 pack unsweetened drink mix
1 tablespoon oil
1 cup boiling water
Mix dry ingredients in a large saucepan . Stir is oil and water . Stir over medium heat until it forms a ball , Dump on wax paper or tabletop allow to cool a little, then knead until smooth.If you have glitter , add it for a special look ! Store in the refrigerator in an airtight container (old cool whip-type container.)
I wanted to include this , but I didn't know where to put it. It is dessert sushi , and it would be fun to make as a family or with friends. I think it may be a hit with the older kids !
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
YOU ARE THE ONE WHO SETS THE TONE FOR THE HOLIDAYS AND THE HOLIDAY CHEER IN YOUR HOUSE. IF YOU ACT LIKE IT IS A HORRIBLE HOLIDAY, YOUR KIDS WILL TOO.
SO , TRY TO FIND THE THINGS YOU CAN BE JOYFUL ABOUT THIS TIME OF YEAR. START WITH SMALL STUFF THEN BUILD UP TO BIGGER THINGS TO BE JOYFUL ABOUT.
YOUR KIDS WILL LEARN THE DEEPER THINGS THIS WAY. BEFORE YOU KNOW IT , YOU WILL HAVE A DIFFERENT TRADITION STARTED. ONE ABOUT BEING HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU DO HAVE.
Here is another thought about Christmas by shezablonde. It truly is more important to remember what Christmas is really about. The love of a Father who gave His Son to us.
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Here is a posting from the previous holiday page that has some great advice:
1. SierraStar posted on Oct 18, 2006
You know I like what you said that we're the ones who set the tone for the holidays. We've never had a lot of money to spend on gifts, I feel bad for my kids when they have to go to school and here all the gifts everyone else has gotten. But no matter how little we have we do what we can for others. I used to work at a nursing home and I had to work Christmas a few times and it was very sad for me to see that a lot of the residents family never came to see them and after the first time I seen this the next year we made everyone a little gift and we dressed up in our holiday best and spent the day with the residents. We do this every year now, and my kids look forward to it. I've always taught them it's better to give from your heart then your wallet.
I also wanted to add when we first bought our fake Christmas tree 10 yrs ago we couldn't afford ornaments. I decided every year my kids would make something special for the tree. Until they could write I would write on an ornament shaped piece of paper what I loved about my children or what is special about them, now every year we all write something special about eachother and afterward I take my packing tape and put over it and we hang them on the tree. I love my tree because it's a symbol of my family.
soulight posted on Oct 18, 2006
Thank you so much for your story and for the good example of how to be happy with what you have.
You sound like a good mom ! Note : I have deleted some of SierraStars information ,because she has included it in her new aidpage which can be found here :